When you’re going through a divorce, you have a lot to think about. How your children are faring must be one of the priorities. Even though they aren’t going through the legal battles, they are still dealing with some big changes and deep emotions that might be difficult for them.

You can help your children to thrive despite the split by making sure they have a stable and loving environment. There are several things that you should avoid because they work directly against those efforts.

  1. Don’t let the rules slide by. Instead, establish the rules from the start. This sets the expectations early and can help the children to avoid having to go through another transition just as soon as things settle down.
  2. Don’t make the child pack constantly. You and your ex should each have a dedicated space for your children to keep their belongings. They will probably have to pack up special items, but they shouldn’t have to pack everything up each time they move between homes.
  3. Don’t speak negatively of your ex. Even though there were issues with the marriage, they are still the child’s parent. You should work to encourage your children to have a meaningful relationship with their other parent.
  4. Don’t break the parenting plan. This plan outlines everything you need to know about the child custody matters. Follow it as it is written, so you don’t run the risk of violating it.

Every decision you make has to be based on what your child needs. Making sure they have what they need while they’re adjusting to this new way of life is one of the best things you can do for them.